how to SET UP A 5 MINUTE BIG GAME SPORTS BOOK AT HOME

How to Host a Big Game Sports Book at Home

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Have you ever wanted to host a big game sports book at your own home? As a native Nevadan, I always like to add a little gambling to my football parties. I’m not sure why, exactly. There’s just something fun about losing three different bets immediately because somehow the Giants forced Tom Brady into a safety in the first drive of the game. Of course, you don’t have to gamble with money. Some people have it, some people don’t, you know which one you and your friends are. You can also gamble with drinks, food, pride, or you know, whatever else you can come up with. We personally choose money or beer, depending on who we’ve invited, but to each their own.

This year I’m not hosting a Super Bowl party, as I’m living in a tiny, dark rental house for one more month. But, my friends did ask me to bring some Vegas type games with me. Since I don’t have to cook, I should have plenty of time – oh wait! I’m a frenzied hostess! It’s tax season and I’m a bookkeeper. I have NO time for anything (including this – which is why it’s late this week!). But, I said I’d do it, so here we go. Enjoy my ideas for making your own big games sports book, and please, don’t feel like it should take all day.

Big Game Sports Book Ideas

Are they a little crazy looking? Sure, but see what I have to work around?

1. Super Squares

If you’ve ever had coworkers, been to a restaurant with TVs in January, or casually glanced at game day ideas, you’ve seen these before. You won’t see them in a Las Vegas sports book, but they’re still fun and easy to get people’s toes wet in the gambling arena. I’m not going to go through the whole process – the folks over at Super Bowl Squares have that covered. Follow those instructions. Now, here’s my input: Get some poster board, don’t waste your time measuring squares because no one cares about that, and then tape it to a wall in an obvious place. You should also have some squares filled out beforehand so people get interested. Yes, you do have to pony up if you place the bets. Then direct your first couple of guests right to that big beautiful grid and get the game going.

2. Prop Bets

I took an extra two seconds per football. Fancy!

Prop bets are my absolute favorite. They are the reason I somehow managed to lose all those bets at once back in 2012. They’re basically just random things you can bet on, like what color Gatorade will get dumped on the winning coach or how long the national anthem will last. Here’s a good list of bets for 2017 specifically, but you could update this each year, minus perhaps the entertainment ones. I would not choose too many. It would get confusing, because you are not actually a sports book. Instead, pick about five, making sure to pick some from both game and non-game related bets. Then throw them on another poster board and have the bettors write their answers on it.

One other little addition I might add this year is to set up a couple of bets about the guests. Not everyone there is going to be a football fan, so to keep them entertained, I thought it might be fun to make some prop bets like “Who will start the backyard football game?” and “Who will cry at a commercial?” If you have big drinker friends, you can incorporate that as well. Since this is your own private big game sports book, you might as well involve everyone.

3. Who Will Win?

Okay friends, you should be doing this even if you aren’t going to make a big game sports book. Why wouldn’t you bet on who’s going to win? Now, there are a couple ways of going about this. The easiest, obviously, is to simply pick who’s going to win. I typically don’t collect any money for this, but when I have guests they write their name on a slip of paper and put it in a bowl dedicated to the team they think is going to win. Once the game is over I pull out a name out from the winner’s side and they get a prize. You could actually collect money and split it between winners; I would give them all something the color of their team, like a pin or beads, to prove they won.

4. Vegas Style

On the other hand, you could get crazy and go real sports book style. Here’s a link to the current odds. I can’t advise you to actually pay out on those odds, unless you’re a rich person, in which case you may want to consider something other than poster board for your sports book. I can tell you what those numbers mean. The line is pretty easy. According to that site, New England is favored by 3, which is the -3 you’re seeing.  Basically you bet on the Patriots if you think they’ll win by 3 or more. You pick Atlanta if you think they’ll win, or even if they’ll lose by less than 3 points. It’s not much of a spread, so good luck with this one.

The other fun part of trying to plan a big game sports book  is taking bets on the over/under. Usually the over/under is what Vegas thinks both teams are going to score combined. In this case, it’s 58 points. Fifty-eight! That’s a high scoring game they’re suggesting. The good news is, the betting part is much easier than the scoring. Do you think there will be more or less than 58 points scored during the game?  You can write down people’s bets for this if you want, or have people put their names down somewhere, or whatever you want. Again, I wouldn’t suggest you spend a lot of time trying to figure out how to pay like the sports book would. I’d just settle on a wager from the beginning; perhaps pair over bettors with under bettors and let them choose their own terms.

Well, that’s about it! Enjoy your big game sports book, and don’t forget your amazing bookie visor! 🙂

 

Why i'm hosting my own birthday party

Why I’m Hosting My Own Birthday Party

I’m turning 32 in a couple of weeks. Last time I checked, no one cares when you turn 32. That is why I’m throwing my own birthday party this year. I usually do this anyway, as it would be a lot to ask someone else to do every year, but I’ll be handling everything this time around. That means I’m the greeter, the chef, the baker, the decorator, the clean-up, and the designated driver. What?! The designated driver at my own birthday party?! Sounds crazy, I know. But I’m pregnant, so it’s really not that big a deal. Typically someone else would get that job, as well as cleanup and baking, but I’ve run into a few issues this year.

The first issue is that I’m preggo. I already have one child and I don’t need a second shower, but I know my family is going to do at least a “sprinkle,” because that’s just how they are. So I don’t need them throwing another party for me. I also happen to be finding out the sex the weekend before my birthday. Since we like to reveal with blue or pink cake, it just makes sense for me to combine that with my own birthday party.  The second issue is I’m still new to Tennessee, and I don’t feel like letting one of my recent acquaintances come up with a guest list to introduce me to people. Regardless, there is nothing wrong with throwing your own birthday party! Just follow a few rules so you don’t come off as needy. Unless you are needy. Then do what you want.

Rules I Have for Hosting My Own Birthday Party

1. No Requesting Gifts

Did you know some people out there still bring gifts to birthday parties? I feel like in college all my friends and I were so broke we just gave up on that tradition and never picked it back up. Then I moved to the south and guests kept bringing me things, whether it was for my birthday or housewarming or whatever. I might bring a bottle of wine if I’m invited somewhere, but I’m not  into gift giving for every occasion.  I don’t want gifts either – unless it’s wine, obviously. So, when I host my own birthday party, I not only don’t request gifts, but I specifically tell people not to bring them. Maybe it’s tacky, maybe it isn’t. Either way, I don’t want you to stress when you come to my party.

2. Don’t Go Overboard

This, my friends, is the opposite of going overboard!

If I’m throwing a party for someone else, I almost always buy more food and/or decor than I will have time to deal with. I want everything to be perfect for them. But guess what? When I’m throwing my own birthday party, I’m usually just impressed I thought of inviting people ahead of time. I feel like it’d be weird to hang a whole bunch of birthday banners for myself, so I’ll definitely skip that. I get to pick my own favorite foods, whether I pick it up or cook. It’s also nice not to have to deal with some fancy bakery – I don’t like a lot of cake frosting, but bakers love it. So I’ll slather some buttercream on it and be done.  No fuss, o headaches, just all my favorite things.

3. Don’t Feel Bad Combining With Another Event

This year I’m doing a little gender reveal during my birthday. Last year I had a newborn and have legitimately no memory of my birthday as I was very sleep-deprived. The year before I enjoyed the big 3-0 at the same time as the Big Game. I know not everyone has a championship to watch on their birthday, but if there’s something else to combine it with, why not? I feel like it takes the spotlight off me, plus it keeps us “old” folks from getting partied out. If I was still in my early twenties back-to-back parties might be fun, but that’s not the case anymore. I had two Christmas parties in three days this December and it about killed me. Maybe that will change once the kids are older, but that seems so far away.

4. Don’t Get Caught up with Etiquette

Why do I say don’t get caught up with etiquette while I’m posting rules that are basically about etiquette? Well, look. Some people get really stressed about what society has to say about throwing your own birthday party. Miss Manners is particularly gruff on this point. There are whole discussion boards in forums dedicated to how tacky it is, and yadda yadda yadda. But who cares? If Miss Manners is your friend, just don’t invite her. Tell those forum people to stay home too. Not everyone knows how to throw a party, and even if they did, not everyone has friends who would want to throw one for them. Feel free to ignore advice that is simply too old-fashioned to listen to.

5. Have Fun!

This one’s actually important. You know what the worst part of hosting my own birthday party is? It’s that I’m a hostess. I like hosting, obviously, but it’s a lot of work and running around. You have to check on people and make sure your guests are okay, specifically your guest of honor. So how do you check on the guest of honor when it’s you? Don’t feel bad if you get caught up with someone and don’t make constant rounds to other people. This is your show, so you might as well enjoy it and let them come to you if you want. That’s about it for rules. So go out, have fun, and plan your own party!

 

3 Lessons for Bachel

Bachelorette Parties & Knowing Your Bride

I’ve been a maid of honor three times. Yep. Three times as not just a bridesmaid, but the maid of honor. You can bet I have some thoughts and opinions on bachelorette parties. I thought this would be a good time to write about them because I’m about to have my fourth. There’s a possible fifth in the works too, if my sister doesn’t decide to elope. Actually, I might throw her a bachelorette party anyway. They’re just so much fun. Now, I’ll admit, I wasn’t as time crunched when I did the first three. I am slightly freaking out about how to find time for these new ones, but when the bride calls, you answer.

The girls I’m planning parties for could not be more different in personality. This is going to make these parties even more time-consuming than usual, and bachelorette parties are already no joke. Normally, my busy friends, I say host the way you want to host and throw the kind of party you want to throw. But, the bachelorette party is not normal. You have to know your bride, and you have to cater to her. There’s a reason four separate women have asked me to be their maid of honor, and it’s not because I’m the best friend they’ve ever had. It’s because I know how to throw a party.

Lesson 1: Bachelorette Parties are not about You

drinks for bachelorettes
Mojitos not your cup of tea? Too bad.

This should go without saying, but what does the bride want? I’ve thrown your typical Vegas bachelorette (just an FYI, I’m from Nevada – I don’t think it’s reasonable for everyone to go to Vegas and your bride shouldn’t either). But then, I’ve also thrown one at Disneyland. I’m currently thinking about one in Memphis, not because I particularly like Memphis, but because my sister loves jazz. Personally, I would have loved to have mine in Napa. I love wine and I was almost thirty when I got married. I didn’t need to do the whole matching T-shirt thing and go to nightclubs. But, that was exactly what we did.

So, there’s the first thing you need to think about. I would have enjoyed my bachelorette party much more if I’d been just a few years younger. I had moved away by that point, so I forgive my friends for not recognizing how much I’d calmed down.  It makes sense to consider age and personality when planning though. Is your bride still young and wild, even if you’re not? I know I’m about to throw one of the tamest bachelorette parties ever, because my sister hates people. She has approximately one friend who isn’t me. That’s not an exaggeration. On the other hand, I’m also about throw one of the wildest for my friend. Which reminds me…I have to travel across state lines to see her…Ug.

Lesson 2: Okay, so they are a LITTLE about you (and the guests)

scheduling bachelorette parties
Now look through twelve more of these and pick your date!

I have to find a babysitter who’s willing to cross state lines to watch me throw a party they won’t be invited to. That requires a little give on the bride’s part, don’t you think? Coordinating with other bridesmaids and guests to pick a date is fine, but the bride has to be willing to let us choose.  Since I’ll only be able to travel once, it will be a bridal shower/bachelorette.  This happens frequently when the maid of honor isn’t in the same city as the bride. If you’re in the same city, maybe you don’t need that kind of flexibility. For one friend in my city, I held two bachelorette parties and a separate bridal shower without being inconvenienced. So, think about the bride, but don’t be afraid to schedule it at a time that works for you and her friends, even if it’s not her ideal date.

I feel like some of you brides are about to go bridezilla on me, but if you’ve never been a maid of honor before, you should know it’s exhausting and expensive. If someone’s throwing up a whole bunch of time and money in your honor, you shouldn’t be too crazy about dates. Obviously you get to choose the wedding date; other than that, help us out! For my own bachelorette party, which was co-hosted by my best friend and sister, I had literally no say in the date. It was two months before my wedding, in the middle of summer, in Las Vegas, which by that point was completely across the country from me. Did I complain? No. It was the only way they could both get the time off.

Lesson 3: Enough about you, back to the bride!

In a perfect world, all maids of honors know exactly what their brides want. But, sometimes, they’re new to the club. Other times the bride may be hiding some secret desires she’s either embarrassed about or, for some reason, thought was obvious. My recommendation? Ask! I made a quick little survey you can have the bride fill out. I think it gets to the important questions, so you can start planning a little. It’s best to do this now, because girl, the bride doesn’t touch the budget. You need to do that yourself. We’re going to have to save budgeting for a future date, though, so you’re on the own for the moment!

Bachelorette Questionnaire

Okay, short-on-time readers who also have very important parties coming up, you have two tasks to get you stated. First, survey the bride. Next, start working out a schedule that’s going to work for you, your bride, and her other guests. If she throws a fit that she can’t pick the date, tell her her party budget just dropped $100 (kidding!). You should also get a good idea of how many will be on the guest list – you can do a great trip to Disneyland with a few people, but it’s going to be impossible to accommodate a giant group. Once you know those things, you can move on to the fun stuff…And the money stuff. We’ll talk about those soon!

 

 

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Achieving Christmas Baking Success

Friends, if you don’t own any Post-Its, you better run out and get some if you plan on doing some Christmas baking. I don’t know about you, but I like having all the cookies and breads and fudge and whatnot when it’s Christmas season. I spread them to my neighbors and friends, so whether I actually host anyone or not it feels worth it. But, I have learned an important lesson since I had a kid – it has to be planned out. I can’t take fifty trips to the grocery store. I can’t guarantee I’ll be able to get to the oven when the timer goes off if my husband isn’t home. The mess is going to be, in a word, ginormous. So, if you are as obviously insane as I am, here’s my tips to getting your baking done:

Be organized.

Wondering what Post-Its have to do with baking? Well, after I pick what I want to make, I put a Post-It with a recipe name on a Tupperware container. When I get a chance, I start taking out my dry ingredients and measuring them for the appropriate Tupperware. If I’m lucky, I can get the amount of flour I need for each recipe in just one sitting, but if not, it doesn’t matter because I’m not cooking yet. Last year I did my ingredient sorting three days before I started baking, but you could take longer. The best part is you’ll know if you’re short on anything ahead of time and only need one trip to the store for forgotten items. It doesn’t work quite as well for wet ingredients, but it’s easier to eyeball vanilla and eggs than a bag of flour.

Don’t be difficult.

I mean, don’t pick things above your cooking ability! If you’re still at “easy,” then please, do not pick this particular extravaganza to up your game. It will only stress you out more.  Baking 5,000 cookies is stressful enough, isn’t it? Actually, even if you are a professional baker, would you really want to make a whole bunch of “difficult” recipes? I doubt it. Maybe one or two, but who has time for more? I like making multiple recipes because I’m insane (2 cookies, 2 fudge or brownie, and 1 bread), but there’s also the possibility of simply making a ton of one or two specific recipes. That’s actually my plan this year – I’m in a tiny kitchen at the moment, and I don’t know a lot of people here anyway, so I think it’s a good choice.

I also don’t recommend anything with frosting, unless you’re a pro. It’s just too time-consuming, so I definitely won’t add that to my list. I know there are so many options for frosting; here’s alternatives, here’s tips, here’s blah blah blah. There are so many recipes for cookies and sweets without frosting out in the world, I don’t know why a time-crunched person like myself would bother. If you’re looking for a new cookie, you can try my Lazy Cookies ‘N Cream Cookies. Yeah, the name is about as long as the recipe.

Don’t worry!

Christmas baking

So what if it takes you more than a day to get through your baking if you big? It might even take you another day or two to distribute the goods. Some of you perfectionists will worry about staleness, but how many recipients will eat everything at once? They will probably blame any staleness on themselves. How great is that? They’ll also be grateful that you thought of them, unless they know you are a terrible baker, in which case you obviously hate them. Kidding! I know it seems odd to let your recipients take the blame, but once you’ve finished, you have enough to deal with other than worrying. Look at your kitchen. It’s a disaster. You can clean that instead of thinking about the perfection -or lack thereof- of your baking. Of course, this is one caveat to this. Don’t serve stale baking at a party.

Don’t eat all your Christmas Baking!

Seriously, isn’t this the hardest one to follow? Now get out there and start baking!

Ugly Sweaters V. Tacky Sweaters

To Make a Tacky Sweater or buy an Ugly Sweater?

I can hear you already. No Beth! Not another tacky sweater party! I can’t handle it! Can’t we just wear something cute and be done with it? Well, sure. I’m not going to your party. I don’t care what your dress code is. I’m not even having an ugly sweater party myself, at least not this year. But there’s been a shift in recent years that’s driving me crazy, so I wanted to chat about it. Ugly sweaters have become tacky sweaters, and friends, I don’t have time for tacky. Literally, I don’t have time to make these crazy contraptions parading themselves as sweaters. So, humor me while I explain this evolution and which is easier for a time-crunched hostess.

The Ugly Sweater

When I first heard about an ugly sweater party, circa 2007ish, I was all in. The fad was a few years in, but it became trendy in Canada first, so cut me some slack. My friends and I had to throw an ugly sweater holiday party immediately.  We went on a sweater hunt to our favorite thrift store and in about thirty minutes we all came out with hideous, but amazing holiday sweaters. Now, thirty minutes may seem like a lot of time for a sweater hunt, but let’s be honest, there were five of us and we were in our twenties. We were easily distracted by other things the thrift store had to offer. I’d say thirty minutes is really a success. This is why I advocate for the ugly sweater over the tacky sweater, if you’re going to buy into this nonsense trend. It’s so much faster!

That’s the sweater I bought back in 2007. I still have it. Ugly right? Your great aunt Mildred probably turned it in to the thrift shop, but who can say for sure? Anyway, that’s another bonus to the ugly sweater. If you’re a costume hoarder like myself, you probably already have one. Do you think I’m ever going to find an uglier sweater than that? No! It’s an awful fabric with an awful color combination. It’s like the designer knew what it’s eventual purpose was going to be.  But, if I did want to go look for a new one, I’m pretty sure I could go down to Goodwill and find one in a matter of minutes, as could you. You might even need to head there anyway. It is Christmas after all. Donations run high this time of year. Now you’re done with your party prep. Easy, right?

The Tacky Sweater

Oh, the tacky sweater. How did it come to this? I admit, there has always been a crossover between ugly and tacky, but in recent years the tacky has soared to new heights. I don’t have one. I’m not going to make one. But I did borrow this image from my friend Allie, who was happy to share how ridiculous they’ve become:

tacky sweater

Do you see this? How do you even wear it? The worst part is this one isn’t even that crazy – and it still probably took awhile. And then if you’re hosting the party you still have to cook and clean and decorate? No thanks. Also, they seem a little wasteful, don’t they? I saw one a couple years ago on Live with Kelly and whoever else was hosting with a stuffed reindeer cut in half and glued on the front and back of the sweater. This is crazy to me. This could be a lot of fun if you aren’t time-crunched. I suppose you could even buy a whole bunch of supplies and decorate as a group, at the party. That might be an interesting take. But if you’re hosting it, just remember you get the cleanup.

The In-Between

There are, of course, ugly sweaters for sale just about everywhere. Here’s one on Amazon that crosses over between tacky and ugly. Tugly? I’ll work on it. The problem with buying ones like this instead of thrift store shopping is, obviously, the price tag. If your income is mostly disposable, this might be the way to go. It would be, in all honesty, the most time-saving. Ten minutes on your phone and bam! Your sweater is on the way, and you can get the fun of tacky with the real sweater feel.

To sum it all up, you have  few options in the ugly sweater department. The quickest way to go is to order it online. You don’t have to leave your house or get out the arts and crafts bucket for that. But, if you don’t want to spend the money on a sweater you can only guarantee you’ll wear once, the thrift store is going to be a lot less work than taking the time to DIY something so horrifying. Plus, what if all those lights and candy canes fall off your sweater and you have to do it all again next year? The horror! No matter what you choose, if you choose to celebrate the strange centennial creation that is the ugly sweater party, have fun, and look awful.

 

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Planning Parties Away from Home

I’ve lived in three different states in the past six years. That’s quite a bit of moving for a non-military family. As you can imagine, I’ve had plenty of friends come and go. But, my true friends and I will always be in touch. We try to get together at least once a year. That means that once a year, there’s a good chance I’m going to be hosting something in a place away from home. This might not happen frequently for you; maybe you and everyone you know live in one place, and it’s easy to gather at your home whenever you want. But there are still plenty of occasions to get out of the house, whether it’s to a restaurant or a rental house. When that’s the case, things can get…interesting.

Check out your Home Away from Home

I mean, check it out BEFORE you go shopping. This is pretty crucial. I’m going to use an example from when a bunch of friends and I stayed in the Smoky Mountains. Our first night I planned on having a big southern meal cooked up for everyone. They were all coming from much further away, so it made sense for me to get there first and be prepared. The problem was the house was really up in the mountains. We didn’t want to get up there, then have to come back down and go shopping, so we tried to do it all beforehand. It was not the best choice. We wound up missing all kinds of tools we thought the house would have, as well as a few crucial ingredients.

Luckily, in that case all our friends were arriving at various times, so we were able to send all of them to the store throughout the day before they headed up the mountain. It would have been a better idea for me to go first, see what we needed, then go shopping. Or, we could have had my husband stay down off the mountain until I could tell him what we needed. One other note about shopping – you’re obviously going to want the smallest size things you can get, since you’re either going to throw it away or have to drag it home.  So practice your recipes! Don’t waste what little you’ve got on a practice try.

You don’t know the kitchen

Remember this. I know in theory everything should cook the same, but we all know ovens are tricky. Things might take longer to cook than they do at your house – or they might burn! Elevation can change cooking times as well. Don’t stress about this , just remember you’re going to be even more frenzied than usual as you get to know your surroundings. If you’re really worried about elevation, you can check out this article for some help. As for oven times, you can always open it up and take a look.

Decorations mean cleanup

If you’re going to be decorating this joint, remember that you’re also responsible for cleaning it, and it will have to be done right away. You can’t leave it for a week like you could at your own house. I personally skip decorating, but a few signs might go a long way. If you have a couple of small chalkboards lying around, it wouldn’t take long to scribble something out. Plus it’ll be just as fast to load them up as it was to bring them out. No tape or tacks required!

Things will definitely be different when you host away from home, but it can still be really fun. I hope one day you get to try it!

 

 

MAN PARTY

The Difficulties of Throwing a Man Party

Have you ever had a hard time coming up with a theme for a man party? I mean, a party for an adult male. I have, and I know I’m not the only one. My husband notoriously doesn’t care about parties, doesn’t want to decorate for anything, doesn’t care if there’s a theme, and basically just doesn’t care what I do as long as there are people there he enjoys and food he wants to eat. So why bother with him at all? Well friends, he still wants to have a good time. He just doesn’t want to participate in planning it.

I personally love birthdays. I know they come around every year and every person has them, but celebrating anything is fun and birthdays allow each person one day to feel special. That’s why I make a big deal out of all my family’s, including my husband’s. Most of the time, we don’t throw parties; we go on trips. Those are fun too, and maybe I’ll talk about how to host a vacation sometimes, but until then, let’s talk about the years I do throw a party. Here are my basic rules for throwing a man party when you don’t have time to make everything perfect:

Cut the Decorations.

I will almost always cut the decorations before I cut anything else, but that’s especially the case in a man party. If you do decorate, your husband/boyfriend/brother/whoever is probably going to say, oh, that looks nice. But he won’t notice the painstaking detail you put into every single hand-painted plate or the three weeks of calligraphy chalkboard lessons you took. Here’s my decorations for my husband’s thirtieth booze an bacon party:

See that? That’s a bacon bouquet in half a wine bottle. Know how long it took me to do all of that? Not including cooking the bacon, ten minutes. (Here’s a good tutorial for the bouquet; I do the wine bottles the dangerous way with flames and nail polisher remover. I won’t be responsible for sharing that with you.) He loved it. He actually looked at it – and eventually he ate it. And I didn’t have to do anything else.

Man Party, Man Chooses Guests.

It’s the one time where you have to like his friends. You don’t have to invite the alcoholic one who’s going to hit on everyone then barf in your kitchen, unless he’s your husband’s best friend, but you should invite the ones he likes, whether you do or not. Don’t spend much time on this. Either get him to tell you the list or pick however many you need if it’s a surprise. But, the guest list is going to help you decide what comes next so it is important. Are these guys/gals gamers? Drinkers? Outdoorsmen?

Food, Drinks, or Activities?

Pick what’s most important to the guy and focus on that – for my husband, it’s always food or drink, but for yours perhaps it’s what you’re going to do at the party. Remember, I’m not talking about an offsite event here. I’m only talking about a things you can do at your house. Perhaps you have a cornhole set. Would it be more important that you set up a tournament, complete with brackets and trophies, instead of serving something time-consuming? Or would he be more insistent that you have a special whiskey cocktail prepared and he and his friends can deal with the cornhole on their own? Once you decide what aspect of the party is the most important, it’s time to focus. If it’s food, you probably have the most work ahead of you, so get started planning asap.

Focus on One Thing.

You know what’s the most important, so you work on that. Let’s go back to my husband’s thirtieth. I chose booze and bacon as a theme, but I don’t want you to think that I put a lot of effort into both food and drinks. We had Bud Light and whiskey in the alcohol department. That was it. My efforts were solely on food; it’s just that I put booze in the food. Here’s a little sample of my menu: beer-candied bacon, wine bundt cakes, BLT cups, and bacon whiskey brownies. I included links, but you’ll notice there’s no bacon in the brownie recipe. Just add chopped up, cooked bacon. Done. I think my next attempt is going to be barbecue based. Good grief does that man like barbecue. He’ll be so excited for that, he won’t care what he’s doing or drinking.

I imagine that most men will be similar to my husband; if you make their favorite party of the party the best part of the party, you can skimp on the effort everywhere else. Actually, most women are probably that way too – except you might also want to consider decorations, unless the woman in question is me. 🙂 One day, when your kids are grown up a little bit, or you’re no longer working 80 hours a week to become a partner, you’ll have time to throw a party that’s fabulous in every single way. Until then, pick what the gentleman likes best and work on that!